When it comes to raising children, one of the most important lessons we can teach them is how to protect themselves. Lucy goes to karate, where she’s learning incredible skills that build not only strength but also confidence. But beyond class, the real learning often happens at home—through conversations and role-play.
One of Lucy’s favorite lessons is simple but powerful: if someone she doesn’t know gets too close, she stands tall, puts her hand out, and says clearly, “That’s far enough!” This one gesture and strong voice communicates boundaries in a way even young children can master.
We’ve also been intentional in teaching Lucy that she is in control of who gets to touch her. That means even with people she loves—like me or her dad—she has the right to say no to a hug. At first, it might feel strange as a parent to be turned down for a hug, but it’s one of the most empowering ways we can show our children that their voice matters and their body belongs to them.
I grew up in a time when it was considered polite—expected, even—to give hugs or kisses on demand to family, friends, or even acquaintances. But this is not the same world, and these are not the same times. Our children deserve to grow up knowing they are confident, capable, and empowered to set boundaries.
Self-defense isn’t just about physical moves. It’s about giving kids the tools to speak up, stand strong, and know their worth. It’s about building a foundation of confidence that will carry them through life, far beyond the mat in karate class.
Lucy’s strong hand and strong voice are reminders to me every day: our kids are never too young to learn that they are in charge of their own bodies. And as parents, it’s our privilege and responsibility to give them that gift.
Raising Light 